I had the same concerns. and now I realize there probably will be some issues I need to work on if I get married, but I can see it happening. I’m not ready for it right now though. Physicial arousal is not really as big as an issue as you might expect, have you ever had sex with a woman(hopefully not)? You don’t know what’s it going to be like untill it happens. When you are chaste, and don’t have sex with multiple people, your body can’t afford to be picky, sex is sex. Just saying. It’ll work. are bodies are designed for it. If you marry the woman you love, you will make it work. You will be willing to work through whatever kind of discomfort you have from closeness with women for your wife.
You said your friend group mostly conists of guys. That is interesting. Was this always the case? I think before and around the time of puberty is when you want to pay attention.
In my case, early on in highschool I was hanging out with girls at lunch. about midway through I realized this wasn’t helpful for me, and It suddenly ended, and I switched to hanging out with the guys. I remember distincly in 5th grade my close friends, and they were boys, but I lost that toward the end of middleschool and going into puberty. It’s not the most important thing, but it can he a hint at what’s going on. so I wonder if you missed something here.
and when you say “romantically bond”, what does that mean? Is it an affectionate sort of attraction, or is it just knowing how to get on a girls good side. Knowing how to make women happy, and romantically bonding to them, is not the same thing. As is/was my case, you can know how to be the perfect gentleman, always striving to please women, all while you are actually exhausted by them, but fear of getting emotionally hurt(by their negative reaction to you), keeps you doing it. I try not to do this, but I used to, without realizing it, especially during early highschool.
Then every once in a while, as might be the case with you, a girl will catch my interest. But its occasional. It’s when a girl is emotionally independant, and seems to have a respect for men and masculinity and(me), then I am interested, because I am not afraid of being drained and having to put on a “nice guy” act.
For counseling, your best bet is a catholic counseler. I believe the majority of secular counselers share similar views, I think school counselers are not even allowed legally to give alternate advice.
For marriage have patience. There might be some goals you want to work on before seeking marriage. for example, I know my relationships and self identification with men, while present, is weak, and I know that in order to reach outside of myself(and my gender), to another(and the other gender), It will help to be more firmly established with my own. so deeper and healthy male relationships are what I am reaching for at the moment, marriage can wait a little, I’m only 19 after all.