The most obvious question I could ask when confronting with “Which Order should I join?” is to ask: are you a man or a woman? What age are you? And if you are male, do you feel any calling to a priestly ministry? (or plain ordination, there are priests without ministerial functions)
Afterwards, I’d need to know what exact type of order are you looking into… Are you thinking about professing vows? Are you considering a enclosed order of a contenplative charism, or out in the open to serve the world? Or a mix of the two, even? And are you into an austere listestyle, or one that allows to have some control over yourself?
What type of spirituality do you feel that brings you closer to sanctity? Benedictine? Carmelite? Franciscan? Salesian? Have you looked these up, if you don’t know them?
And a question which is more fundamental than you might think (especially if you’re taking advice from the CAF crowd), are you a ‘traditional’ Catholic (as in, do you frequent or have a preference in the old pre-Vatican II liturgy), or not? That question alone makes any type of recommendation easier, as we know exactly what type of community to exclude. Unless you want to become one of us trads!
Finally, get a spiritual director who you might think that can help you, Speak with the Vocations Director of your diocese, and pray, pray and pray some more! If you want to become a religious, you might just get used to that!
I’ll keep you in your prayers, and will await your response. God bless