For those of you familiar with what is going on with my brother, education, and family, here is an update.
I couldn’t really talk to him while I was visiting my family for Thanksgiving. My mom hovered around me like flies on doody, so I didn’t get any one on one time with any of my family members except for her. So, I don’t know where my brother stands. I did snag him for a few seconds in the garage when I was doing my laundry.
Me: Hey, D, how’s school going?
Me: You know, if you are having trouble here, you could come live with us.
Him: I really don’t want to get back into the public school system.
Me: You wouldn’t have to.
Him: I don’t think I could get into an independent study program where you live.
Me: Well, I could homeschool you. That’s different.
My mom decided to come keep me company at that point, so end of converstation.
I really don’t know if he wants help or not. His life ambition right now is to go live in Alaska and start a fishing guide business. I do think that whatever my brother wants, my mom is determined to ignore in favor of what she wants.
I am starting to lose hope for my brother’s future. I am at the point where when my mom brings up my brother and his school I just tell her that subject is off limits. She really doesn’t want my advice I now realize. The final straw for me was that when I was visiting she kept questioning my parenting decisions. (another topic, but she kept questioning why my 4yo can’t watch Family Guy) I think that my mom and I have different parenting styles, and/or different values for our children at this point and that it will just be harmful to our relationship to have that discussion.
I am just so disheartened and am afraid of doing my brother a great disservice by not doing anything at all.