I suddenly feel like I am floundering in faith. I had been married for three years before realizing that part of the Church’s teaching on natural family planning is that the couple must have a grave reason to avoid pregnancy.
Even after attending two per-marital counseling sessions with a priest, a weekend long Engaged Encounter, the FOCCUS test, and two additional marital counseling required by our Church and Archdioceses…this little fact was left out. They briefly mentioned that NFP was Church teaching, but that was the end of the entire discussion. Taking it an absurd step further- the priest at our Engaged Encounter encouraged couples to “shop around” to find a lenient priest on sexual issues.As far as I was concerned, NFP was just the way Catholic families lived (if they bothered to do it at all). It was part of the Catholic lifestyle.
I feel horrible, like I was allowed to enter into a vocation under false per-tenses. How can the Church not tell this to a young couple preparing for marriage? And now, to hear that NFP couples are sinning when they enjoy sexual activity outside of vaginal intercourse…it is more than I can bear.
With my (rather sudden) recent doubt, I feel like I am failing the Church, and I also feel like the Church has failed me. :crying: