well, a short background - my husband and I do not have a good marriage. He took a new job and moved - we decided I would stay at mine and be together on weekends (we did this because we couldn’t decide if we should move there permanently and wanted to be able for him to come back if this job did not work out which we did not think it would long term).
So, anyway, we spent a lot of money moving us both and new apartments and deposits, and gas, and moving expenses only to have him take 2 vacation days which mgt agreed too reluctantly and then he got ill, and took 4 or 5 days off, which I thought was kind of long to have off, so he goes back to work yesterday and then calls me today saying he’s been fired for taking too much time off and he’s only been there 3 or so weeks.
He was telling me the whole time how much he misses me and our son and all that, so he is glad it’s over and he can come home.
Well, tonight he is back and started drinking. We went out to dinner, and I accidentally stepped on his foot (I didn’t even notice it so I know that it wasn’t hard - and I wasn’t drinking so I should know). So, he started calling me names in the resteraunt kind of loud and then in the car he starts complaining about how he should have never married me - and you can tell he’s a little drunk. I try to let it roll off my back but believe me, it’s hard when he’s telling me these kinds of things.
He is kind of selfish he thinks everyone should cater to his heeds - he is mad b/c my parents who are leaving out of town tomorrow for the day can’t watch our son - I didn’t even ask b/c I know they are going, so that just made him more irrational to talk to and mad b/c they aren’t going to be watching our son so my husband can go dancing - no kidding. He is mad that my dad went inside the house when we picked up our son, and I pointed out that my dad came right over to the car and started talking to my Dh, but when went inside (probably because you can tell Dh had been drinking - I mean my dad hates that)
He says he’ll stop the drinking and smoking, but yeah right I have been hearing that for years. I am not trying to make it sound like he drinks every night and lots, it’s not like that, but still it’s enough and when it does happen, he just gets mad and just like I was mentioning. i just don’t get how one person can go from 2 extremes in a matter of a seconds - you are the best most understaning wife - you are a horrible woman and I should have never married you, I hate your parents, and so forth.
I need lots of prayers. I have no clue where our life is going. He doesn’t want to get a permanent job b/c he wants to take off and visit his family with our son (sometimes he wants me to come and sometimes not), so his dad can see him. I say why don’t you go see him for a short visit ( we all will) and then how about you take care of your family here? But wait, no, he thinks why can’t I take care of him and that I am trying to make him turn his back on his dad (who lives VERY far from us). Hmm…I don’t know anymore what to do, but I need lots of prayers if you have a few minutes! Thanks!