[quote=olemammy]Hmm. Not a big issue around our house. But just heard an interesting take on the issue of staying attractive for ones spouse.
I have always held to the idea that looks don’t matter that much, and if a man truly loves his wife, he shouldn’t care about her weight. If he does care about it, he is just immature.
Tried to reconcile that with the obvious fact that men are more motivated by looks than women and that may just be the way God made them.
Then someone threw this at me. Women, almost universally prefer a man to be taller than they are. This is not absolute, but it does seem to be just about as consistant as men prefering thin women.
This never causes a problem in marriage, becasue 1) women avoid short men in dating, and 2) men don’t get shorter as they age.
But, what if your husband could, by bad nutrition and bad excercise, get shorter. Would that be an issue? Would you feel that his love of the bad habits was greater than his concern for how you felt about him?
Hmm! Give me another donut, and let me think about that one for a while.
No, I would not stop loving him for being shorter then me. I am only five foot tall, so it would take being cut off at the knees for my six foot tall hubby to be shorter then me. I would love him, if he goes bald or looses his teeth or becomes shorter then me. These are issues beyond his control though.
If he gained weight due to a physical problem, I doubt that I would have a problem. Eveyone gains a some weight as they get older. Our metabolism slows as we age and it becomes difficult to eat the same amount of food that you ate as a young person.
If he gained weight because he refused to eat healthy or do anything other then sit on the recliner, I would still love him but I would find it hard to be physically attracted to him. I might even be resentful.
Let me clarify that by overwieght I am not talking about ten, twenty or even fifty pounds. I mean obesity to the point of having health problems.
MOre then that, if you are endangering your health through bad habits then you are not showing love for yourself or your spouse.I would also add that if a spouse does not care about their hubby or wives excessive weight then they do not care about that person. How can anyone say that they love another, if they aren’t worried about that person engaging in habits that will shorten their lives?