I think I may have lusted. And I actually was disgusted so I am making progress in my prayers to Mary and the father in Jesus’ name. If you are tempted to look at nudity and do so to the point it starts to have ideas and an effect on your animal instincts is that lust? I may need to go to confession once again and nip this in the bud.
CCC 2351 Lust is disordered desire for or inordinate enjoyment of sexual pleasure. Sexual pleasure is morally disordered when sought for itself, isolated from its procreative and unitive purposes.
This was all in mind though. DIdn’t Jesus say if you did it in your mind it’s as bad as doing in reality?
The thing to recognize is that you sinned…Mortally or not we cannot say…Best to take it to your confessor and be guided by his advice. As you say - nip it in the bud…
If you are tempted to look at nudity…
That temptation is an “occasion of sin.” In other words, it is likely to lead to sin unless you either avoid it or have good self-control.
…and do so to the point it starts to have ideas…
;)So much for self-control!
… is that lust?
I have a problem knowing when eating turns to gluttony, so I’m not a great adviser on the Deadly Sins.
Ask your confessor. He’ll have a better idea than I can come up with.
It’s best to confess and be absolved!
If you resisted the impure thought at the door of your mind it was a temptation, not a sin. If you felt attracted to the impure thought but then resisted it, it is a venial sin. If you felt atttracted to it and indulged in it consciously before turning away, it is a mortal sin.
When in doubt, confess it out. Go see your priest. Ideally, you should be receiving communion once a month, even just to confess venial sins. I’m not sure if what you did it a mortal sin, but if I were you I’d be in the confessional this Saturday. Confession is a beautiful sacrament, it’s so wonderful. People these days have a terrible view of confession, I think this is due to pride and embarrassment. Humble yourself before God by confessing your sins to a priest, do your penance and be reconciled. It is a great feeling.
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This was all in mind though. DIdn't Jesus say if you did it in your mind it's as bad as doing in reality?
And what do you think "disordered desire" means?
Yes he did say that. So - get to confession as soon as you are able to.
The Root Cause of Lust
In order to free ourselves from the grasp of this irascible demon of lust which tirelessly clings to our souls with relentless tenacity, each of us needs to introspectively search for, identify and understand this root cause and how it operates.
Here’s an explanation by an unknown Carmelite priest:
Going to confession and purging our sins only clears away the sin. It doesn’t address the root cause. It is like a spider spinning a web. Confession clears away the web, but the spider is patient. He lurks in the background and waits for a time. Then, he slowly and quietly begins to rebuild his web. After a while, we are back committing the same old sins all over again. The pattern becomes a roller coaster of Sin – Confess – Sin – Confess. We find ourselves in this habitual cycle, unable to break free.
This happens because, somewhere along the way, we have formed an attitude of arrogance, an attitude which says that we don’t need God, that we can do it all ourselves.
So what does God do? He withdraws His hand and withholds His support. God says to us, “Do you think that you don’t need me? Do you think you can do it all by yourself? Do you think that you are better than they are? Look and see what you are without the help of the Lord your God?”
In no time at all, there we are, found wallowing in our own weakness, helplessness, sin and misery for all to see.
Instead of just clearing away the web each time that we sin, we need to kill the spider.
Lust and the impure actions that accompany it are not rooted in the flesh but in the lack of charity and love we have toward one another.
Being condescending and judgmental towards others while, at the same time, holding on to an unkind, impatient, uncharitable and selfish attitude and demeanor are what cause the lust to bubble forth.
Instead of growing into the loving, giving, kind and patient person that God intended, the attitude becomes ingrained in our psyches of treating others as mere objects of personal gratification. To make matters worse, out of guilt we seek consolation. This perverse form of consolation tacitly and inevitably manifests itself in the flesh. By this means, before we even know what happened, the anger-lust-guilt habit has become self-perpetuating.
Where true charity and Christian love are lacking, purity will be found wanting as well.
The causes of our lust, therefore, are often times quite disassociated from the lust itself.
What to do?
The first step is to perform an honest personal inventory and look for the spiders of lust that dwell within you.
Start by examining your relationships -
• Do you have problems at Home? At Work? At School?
What are they? When did they begin? Who is or was involved?
• What are the sources of stress in your life?
• Where and how is charity lacking in your life?
• Where and under what circumstances are you most prone to being judgmental of others?
• Toward whom is your anger, hostility, impatience or animosity directed?
• Summarize - What, for you, provides the most fertile environment for growing your spiders?
Find your spiders of lust. Come to recognize them. Root them out. Ask God to help you kill them.
Make the environment of your being totally unsuitable for the spider and he will leave.
Sacred Scripture identifies the principal demon of impurity. His name is asmodeus. The Archangel Raphael defeated asmodeus, enabling Tobias to enter into a Holy marriage with Sarah. (Book of Tobit)
Ask St. Raphael to help you in your struggles against this spider, this demon that stalks the recesses of your soul.
Take the Next Step
Reconciliation and healing, charity and love are what we need and what others need from us. Begin this conversion, this healing transformation by giving God and prayer a bigger and more prominent role in your daily life. Put God first, then, let go and let God.
You will be all the better for it and so will all of those around you.
A word of warning: After all of your hard work, make absolutely certain that God fills the void left by the spider, lest bigger and stronger spiders come along and take up residence in its place.