I am a devout catholic and I have a question concerning the workplace and resumes. I know that lying is a blatant offense against GOD, but I am wondering, is it an offense to lie or at least obscure a resume, for an employer, say you have a mother who is a real estate agent, is it a sin to put that you are her assistant?
If you don’t assist her in any way, then yes, that would be a lie, and it would be wrong. However, if you assist your mom in any capacity, then it would be appropriate to say you assist her, and then list the ways in which you actually assist. Don’t undersell yourself on a resume (give credit where it is due, and ask others to help you see your qualities). At the same time, don’t lie.
I agree— if you’ve helped her, specify how you helped her. (Put together fliers? Took photos? Planted signs? Helped stage an open house? Input information onto Zillow or the MLS or whatever? Scanned documents for her?) If you don’t help her, leave it off, and ask your mom if you can start helping her in some capacity so that, six months from now, you do have the experience to claim.
If you’ve used your skill and time, it doesn’t matter if you don’t do it 40 hours a week, or if you might not even be paid— it’s still experience that you can draw from. But don’t try to claim experiences that you don’t legitimately possess.
As suggested above if you’ve helped your mother with her job, you can mention it as experience, which is useful on resumes and in interviews. But don’t give the impression that you’ve worked a job as a real estate assistant if you haven’t.
If you lie in a resume there may come a time when they expect you to just know things you don’t and be more capable than you are. I don’t think anyone will fire you over this but you will not give them the best impression. Not that they will figure out you lied to them, you will just give them the impression you were an incompetent assistant. Plus I don’t know if all employers do take seriously what you did for relatives. They might just assume she hired you just because you are her son. It’s a pointless lie imho.
Ok listen to what you just wrote here:
I know lying is s sin, but is it OK to lie in this circumstance xxxxx?
@jayitson304 Hi A lie is a lie,B/w It is better not to build your career on a lie ,if you have indeed helped your Mother you can wisely ,say you have assisted or have experience in this field.If you have not done it please don"t do it.Jesus will help you don’t worry.Pray through Mother Mary she will quicken the process quickly as she did it at cana
John 8:44 44 You are from your father the devil, and you choose to do your father’s desires. He was a murderer from the beginning and does not stand in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks according to his own nature, for he is a liar and the father of lies.
Colossians 3:9 Do not lie to one another, seeing that you have stripped off the old self with its practices
Agreeing with the others.
I wouldn’t actually lie; that is, if I never actually worked for my mother I wouldn’t put it down.
If I did something, even if it was just running for coffee and donuts, it’s work experience and I’d include it.
But be aware that anything on your resume may come up on an in-person interview. If you say you were her “assistant” that might create an impression of a level of responsibility that might not be there, and if the question comes up on an interview of exactly what you did, it might look like you were trying to be misleading.
The moral component has already been discussed.
From a practical standpoint, embellished resumes are a recipe for major trouble. So what if you get hired, and then are put on a project that you claimed you can do, but actually can’t?
I had a coworker just get let go because of that scenario. Not so much the embellishment itself, but because he oversold himself, and showed later that he did not have the skillset for which he was hired. Well. Bye bye.
I, on the other hand, did NOT embellish my resume or oversell myself for a position I was applying for years ago. The employer was honest enough to tell me that while I had strengths in some areas, I was weak in others where they needed a particular skillset and got turned down. BUT: they said there was another, lower position for which I could apply where they were low on skills I did possess. I took it. That was just under ten years ago, and within a few years, I was at the position I had originally applied for, and still am.
Embellishment is a bad career move.
I definitely would not advise this, either.
A friend of mine came close to losing a job due to embellishing a resume.
She got a warning about lying about information that you give to the company, instead of being terminated.
The company went to verify her information on her resume, and that’s when they found out that some of it wasn’t true.
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