I was hoping to gather some advice from the collected experience and wisdom on this forum. Let me explain my situation:
My wife and I have been married for a little over two years. For the vast majority of that time, we lived in Pittsburgh, PA, which also happened to be my wife’s hometown and where both of us went to college. Earlier this year, I started looking for a new job, and we both knew that this would likely require us to relocate. Odds were that I’d end up in either Philadelphia or Houston (my hometown), but as it turned out, my best opportunity by far was in rural Arkansas. Because the company wanted me to start ASAP, I forged ahead and started work in late August, while my wife stayed behind.
This was a good solution at the time for several reasons – it gave her the opportunity to finish work on a first-author paper (she works in a lab), allowed her to spend more time with her parents, and would give her time to find what she could do when she finally moved down with me. Unfortunately, we’re finding that the answer to the third part is “not a whole lot,” and that’s where the problems start.
It’s already going to be a somewhat difficult transition for her to move away from her hometown, particularly going from an urban environment to a fairly rural town. The fact that she doesn’t have anything immediately lined up to do worries her immensely, and she’s very concerned that she’ll be extremely lonely.
I’ve done my best to reassure her that we’ll find something for her to do down here, and there are a few possibilities, though nothing definite. I’m trying hard to be a loving, nurturing husband through this and make my wife’s transition down here as smooth as possible, but I want to know if any of y’all have any advice (general or specific) about how I could do better.
A few other points that might be worth knowing:
*]We’re both in our mid-to-late 20s
*]No kids yet
*]My salary is sufficient for us to live comfortably
*]She’ll be moving down here permanently in mid-January
Thanks in advance for any input y’all may have!