I’m a stay at home dad and have learned a lot about abilities I never thought I had because of it. Apparently, I am a bit of an intuitive cook and can change diapers like pulling a cloth out from under a set table.
But I am still the father. And my wife is the mother. This is apparent in the way our two little girls act towards us. They naturally have a different relationship with each of us because we each did certain things naturally when they were so young and still do. Mom nursed them, heck, gave them a warm place to grow for nine months, so they naturally gravitate to Mom when they want some comfort. That is the really the big one.
I think that male and female in our day and age has turned largely away from traditional “roles”. I have no reason to believe that one of my girls won’t go into a math based career, or become a truck driver. My oldest loves dinosaurs and spiderman and I see no problems with it. But they will never be a father.
Addmitedly, I was a little jealous about them preferring their mother when it comes to basic comforts (after I spend all day with you, you can’t need me a little more) but the mother-child relationship is so beautiful, so naturally basic and basically natural. Don’t get me wrong, I am raising two little daddy’s girls. But Mom is Mom - she earned it!