Thanks all for your thoughts..
In 2001, I was out on a corporate Christmas party having a great time with co-workers.
As the party was dying down... one of the Sr. Technical Programmer Analyst came over & sat next to me & said that all his work mates left and he wanted to sit with us.
I've known this man for 6 years as we both worked in the same Information Technology department. I was a social butterfly, he was the quite, shy computer geek that no one paid any attention to.
After the Christmas party, a few co-workers wanted to go out and he asked if he can come. Sure I said and he came along. We went to a place for snacks & cocktails and he stuck to me like glue.
As it was getting late so we all decided to pack up & head home.
The next day, he asked if he can get to know me.... sure I said.
Now, I was a divorcee with no kids and he is a widower with 2 little girls. His wife had died from cancer a year before that.
We dated quitely for about 1+ year. It was after this time, he asked me to come to his house to meet his girls. When I started dating him, quitely, his little one was 7 & the other one was 12
After a 1+ year of quitely dating, the girls are now 8 & 13.
I went to his house and it was cold & dark and I don't mean temperature & no light. He had told the girls that a "lady friend" would be coming over, so they know. It was no surprise to them.
It was the cold & dark stare I got from the girls. Anyway, he fed them, clean up and we went & sat outside on the porch for a while.
Ever since that day, they still have been cold & dark with me. I continued to date him but didn't push any issues.
After all of these years of being together, we never became a family.
He found out that the older girl did not want him to ever marry again and she told him that he should never ever be with another woman.
He continued to see me & he would bring his girls to my house. The air was so thick and it was filled with anger & hatred. I knew this would not be the family to get into.
Although this man loves me to death, it's been a horrible experience and after all of these years, it is over.
When I started this thread, I wanted to know from other men how they would have dealt with this issue with his girls. My guy didn't handle it at all, ignored the animosity and dismissed everything and felt we should go on regardless of how his girls felt.
I could not live a life like that.
Thanks again for you replies and for hearing my story.