Males, did you masturbate when you were younger?


#1

If you did, I was wondering how/if you overcame the sin. Thank you.


#2

I take Paxil for anxiety and depression and it drastically reduces my libido.


#3

Hi zenkai,
It would seem that all, or most men have masturbated at some point as have I.
I gave advice to another struggling person just a moment ago, here is the link to the thread

forums.catholic.com/showthread.php?t=696293

God bless friend.


#4

Eventually I came to realized I was trapped by my own sexuality, and "abusing myself" was all I wanted to do. It was very distracting. This was before I was religious and strong in my faith, but my faith confirmed my rational findings. Natural law at its best!


#5

Thank you for the responses :)


#6

Best analogy I heard was that it's like quitting smoking. Based on my experience, I totally agree. I did win though after a few months.

First off, as with any short-coming, don't overly punish yourself. Be patient and you'll find the urge diminish over time. If you lapse, ask for forgiveness, go to confession, forgive yourself, and try to be better next time. Expect this cycle to repeat several times before you win.

I felt that Catholic practice of confession raises the bar, particularly for this sin. "Before I do this, is it really worth telling Father X about it?". Christians who only confess directly to God have it easy in my opinion.

Remember that all women deserve respect as people. You treat them better by not checking them out for future imaginary use. Besides in really, many women know you're looking at them in this way and won't think much of you for it. When in conversation, keep your eyes up. If you recognize that one is attractive (not by itself a sin), you can catch yourself before looking a second time in any erotic fashion.

Hope this helps


#7

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Best analogy I heard was that it's like quitting smoking. Based on my experience, I totally agree. I did win though after a few months.

First off, as with any short-coming, don't overly punish yourself. Be patient and you'll find the urge diminish over time. If you lapse, ask for forgiveness, go to confession, forgive yourself, and try to be better next time. Expect this cycle to repeat several times before you win.

I felt that Catholic practice of confession raises the bar, particularly for this sin. "Before I do this, is it really worth telling Father X about it?". Christians who only confess directly to God have it easy in my opinion.

Remember that all women deserve respect as people. You treat them better by not checking them out for future imaginary use. Besides in really, many women know you're looking at them in this way and won't think much of you for it. When in conversation, keep your eyes up. If you recognize that one is attractive (not by itself a sin), you can catch yourself before looking a second time in any erotic fashion.

Hope this helps

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Thanks :)

God bless


#8

For me, I used to think of it as therapeutic, but with so many therapeutic things, it became easy to abuse. It was my panacea, for a time, but I won't grizzle you with the unnecessary details. Suffice to say, I came to realise that I didn't have a cure so much as a disease. So I stopped.
It wasn't that simple, of course. I was an idiot, I convinced myself going cold turkey was impossible, so I tormented myself with 'reducing my output.' Which is a lot of ****, don't even bother, it doesn't, and I stress, doesn't work. Eventually, I realised that if I was going to stop, I had to take drastic measures. I cut myself off from the internet, and I got rid of anything in my house that could incite lustful tendencies, which is a surprising amount of stuff. Some men have very associative libidos, for me, even some music or smells could trigger lust if lust had occured previously concomitantly with a given external stimulus. I.E. if I was listening to a song whilst doing the deed, than, to borrow from the Tanakh, that song has become unclean and needs to be banished from the camp. There are still some songs which I simply rather wouldn't listen to.
Quitting is like Communism, in that you have to have a brief reign of total abstinence, from a lot of things that ail you, after which point you can allow yourself, gradually, certain freedoms. Most of the nonanthroponorphic things that used to bolster lust are now background noise, not threatening at all to my libido. I still struggle with lust, of course, more so now since having lost weight, but that's another story.
So now that I've made myself look like a crazy person I can end this rant by asking God to bless you abundantly.


#9

CHAPTER 13 – On Resisting Temptations [The Imitation of Christ]

So long as we live in this world, we cannot remain without trial and temptation: as Job says, “Man's life on earth is a warfare.” We must therefore be on guard against temptations, and watchful in prayer, that the Devil find no means of deceiving us; for he never rests, but prowls around seeking whom he may devour. No one is so perfect and holy that he is never tempted, and we can never be secure from temptation.

Although temptations are so troublesome and grievous, yet they are often profitable to us, for by them we are humbled, cleansed, and instructed. All the Saints endured manly trials and temptations, and profited by them; but those who could not resist temptations became reprobate, and fell away. There is no Order so holy, nor place so secluded, where there are no troubles and temptations.

No man can be entirely free from temptation so long as he lives; for the source of temptation lies within our own nature, since we are born with an inclination towards evil. When one temptation or trial draws to a close, another takes its place; and we shall always have something to fight, for man has lost the blessing of original happiness. Many try to escape temptations, only to encounter them more fiercely, for no one can win victory by flight alone; it is only by patience and true humility that we can grow stronger than all our foes.

The man who only avoids the outward occasions of evil, but fails to uproot it in himself, will gain little advantage. Indeed, temptations will return upon him the sooner, and he will find himself in a worse state than before. Little by little and by patient endurance you will overcome them by God's help, better than by your own violence and importunity. Seek regular advice in temptation, and never deal harshly with those who are tempted, but give them such encouragement as you would value yourself.

The beginning of all evil temptation is an unstable mind and lack of trust in God. Just as a ship without a helm is driven to and fro by the waves, so a careless man, who abandons his proper course, is tempted in countless ways. Fire tempers steel, and temptation the just man. We often do not know what we can bear, but temptation reveals our true nature. We need especially to be on our guard at the very onset of temptation, for then the Enemy may be more easily overcome, if he is not allowed to enter the gates of the mind: he must be repulsed at the threshold, as soon as he knocks. Thus the poet Ovid writes, “Resist at the beginning; the remedy may come too late.” For first there comes into the mind an evil thought: next, a vivid picture: then delight, and urge to evil, and finally consent. In this way the Enemy gradually gains complete mastery, when he is not resisted at first. And the longer a slothful man delays resistance, the weaker he becomes, and the stronger his enemy grows against him.

Some people undergo their heaviest temptations at the beginning of their conversion; some towards the end of their course; others are greatly troubled all their lives; while there are some whose temptations are but light. This is in accordance with the wisdom and justice of God's ordinance, who weighs the condition and merits of every man, and disposes all things for the salvation of those whom He chooses.

We must not despair, therefore, when we are tempted, but earnestly pray God to grant us his help in every need. For, as Saint Paul says, “With the temptation, God will provide a way to overcome it, that we may be able to bear bear it.” So, let us humble ourselves under the hand of God, in every trial and trouble, for He will save and raise up the humble in Spirit. In all these trials, our progress is tested; in them great merit may be secured, and our virtue become evident. It is no great matter if we are devout and fervent when we have no troubles; but if we show patience in adversity, we can make great progress in virtue. Some are spared severe temptations, but are overcome in the lesser ones of every day, in order that they may be humble, and learn not to trust in themselves, but to recognize their frailty.


#10

Thank you to everyone for the responses.

Also, I see that one guy voted that he never masturbated. I would like to know his secret!


#11

Please see the following threads for further insight and advice:
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*] Specific Questions About an Old Topic: Masturbation
*] List of Catholic Websites for Battling Impurity
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