Oh my goodness! I have a couple of people in my life right now who are sooooooo manipulative. One is a family member, the other an acquaintance. I’ve developed a backbone, and have been trying to block their manipulations. I’ve always been a sucker about “helping” people, etc. I’ve reached the end of my rope. Since putting up my little blockades, these 2 people have been coming at me something terrible! I have daily emails from one, constantly asking for favors, etc. After I decline several times, then she confronts me either in a voicemail or email, in a very nasty, awful way. I understand, from several people, that she is speaking very poorly about me and my husband. The family member, I give more leeway, as it’s family. Same thing there, though. The family member also speaks terribly about me to others. I’ve actually been verbally attacked by her friends about how “mean” I am. sigh I’ve tried not to complain about them and create scandal about them, but lately I’ve found myself talking about them to others in a NOT so gracious manner. I feel the need to go to confession about it.
Anyway, how can I deal with these people gracefully? It’s difficult to totally cut them out, as I have to see them on a somewhat regular basis. It makes me almost sick to have to be around them. I’ve taken to just deleting the emails from the acquaintance before reading them…but, as we are involved in some activities together, the emails may actually be important. It’s really hard not to complain about them to people, but sometimes I feel the need, just to make certain I"m not crazy or something. Help!