Sparrowhawk says:I’m 20, and have recently experienced a kind of spiritual renewal. I aim to spend time at church most days - in private prayer, in Adoration or in Mass.
GOOD FOR YOU!
Recently I started thinking about the possibility of wearing a mantilla or chapel veil*. (cut for length)
What are your views on people wearing veils? Any arguments for or against?
I am 45, a convert at 40, and i wear one.
most of the folks i see wearing them locally are very YOUNG, or very old. basically the pre 60’s crowd, and the new “renewed traditionals” that are in their 20s
admittedly, they dont all wear the “classic” lace veil… many wear head scarves, some kind of hat (that was typical in the 50s) etc.
there are a LARGE number of veiling discussion groups on this forum, facebook, livejournal, etc… often also with modest clothing or modest dressing groups. most of which are populated by people under 35.
i belong to several…
my real mundane name is Kirsten Houseknecht and i am fabricdragon online most places.
i am NOT the best example of a Catholic, i have a lot of work to do in my life… but if you want to find a veiling or modest clothing group on any of the other social media forums feel free to contact me!
Where is the best place or time to wear a veil?
here is where you will get some interesting debates about WHY you wear a veil…
If its in answer to church custom? in church at all times or before the Sacraments…
if you wear it in answer to the Bible quote about covering your head “when you pray” then whenever in church or in the presence of the Presence… obviously! but then you also get the question that we are told to “pray without ceasing” so maybe all the time?
(this is why the Amish , Mennonite, and Plain Catholic women wear head coverings at all times)
Most of us start out by veiling/covering in church and at Adoration… and some of us then move on to full time, and some do not.
In my case i find it also helps me keep distractions at a minimum…
What kind of veil would be best for me (a young, single woman)? I’ve done some research and there are quite a few kinds to choose from, so I’m feeling a bit swamped by choice.
hornets nest there… because many people have strong personal opinions, but honestly? let me help you narrow it down a bit
at least to start with, why not pick one that you can picture wearing, stays on easily, and wont make you feel too awkward.
i wear a full size mantilla veil…only for adoration and “big services” like Easter (and when i converted i had 8 people ask where i got my veil)
the rest of the time?
i wear scarves.
simple, easy, cheap if you sew… able to be worn multiple ways, and stylish.
i favor the “Dutch Crown” style from the Jewish websight Tznius dot com… they have scarf tying instructions… but i also haunt Jewish, Plain and Muslim stores and online shops for scarf tutorials and sales.
and if your scarves are to slippery… you can line them in cotton … or:
in the winter i have been known to wear the “two part hijab” because i get so cold, but what i usually do is wear the head band part… only.
its an elastic wide head band, comes in colors and patterns, and if my scarf is one of those pesky slippery beasties i can PIN the scarf to the head band!
also lets me use up my broach/pin collection.