[quote="teresadeavila, post:1, topic:253176"]
After my own situation and reading other posts/threads, really, WHAT is going on with marriages nowadays? A priest/friend of mine stated that he thought it was mostly egoism and lack of attention (not sure if he meant from wives and husbands equally but likely just in general). But adultery, lack of communication, finances, power struggles, facebook cheating, internet porn, abuse, etc. - marriage is being attacked by all various means and evils.
Without God, church, prayer, priests, counseling, Retrovaille, and other marriage resources, seems marriage doesn't stand a chance in this day and age. Are we, in general, just becoming so invariably selfish (wives or husbands) and/or have unrealistic expectations, that a strong marriage from the get go will always be an uphill battle?
I am struggling with my own issues in my marriage and we have a long road ahead of us to grow in our relationship but thankfully, we have counseling and great priests to guide us. How do you keep your marriage strong??
Once I saw statistics in a Yahoo poll that asked exactly that, why couples split more nowadays. Most of the answers (American?), say, about 65% chose that it was that the couples did not try long enough.
I was surprised. For it is my opinion. When you go to marriage with the chance of divorce, you half way there. I read about pre-nuptial agreements what made be laugh though it is not a laughing matter.
Now, the problems you mentioned appear and there are no marriages without problems. The strange thing is that some marriages survive through hails of bullets others sink in a calm sea.
If we were able (we, me too) to remember Christ's teaching: "pardon your enemies" all marriages would survive. Love of your enemies is the only true love for it asks nothing in return. But how far away are we from Christ's love for us...
Nevertheless, we should always struggle to follow His Path, the Path of forgiveness, not 7 times but 70x7 times...
Should God grant us this Grace, for without Him we are nothing...