If the pleas from your friends and family don’t prompt you to slow down, I doubt that the pleas of online strangers will either.
But…look at it from this angle. You guys have the ENTIRE REST OF YOUR LIVES to be married, and you’re only in your 20’s. With modern medical advances and all of the advances that are sure to be made in your lifetime, you have every reason to believe that you will live well into your 100’s. You are likely looking at 80-100 YEARS of marriage.
You will never have this time back. You only get to date, get to know, fall in love with, and wonder about the future with your husband once. Dating, in addition to allowing you to get to know your partner, provides you with some incredible memories-from the awkward first kisses, to the first times you have truly deep conversations, to the blissful anxiety of “Is he really the one? Am I really going to be with him forever?” and eventually the “Is tonight the night he’ll propose?”. The disappointment that happens when a date ends, and the excitement that leads up to a date, sometimes days in advance, is a very intense roller coaster. Getting to impress and surprise someone that you are so impressed and surprised by is so much fun, and so easy to do when you’re infatuated and getting to know more about the person every day. The feeling each time a new step is taken (the first kiss, the first conversation about marriage, the first time he joins in a family holiday) is almost indescribable. In short, it’s just something you have to go through to understand.
You only get the chance to experience your husband in that way once. It’s exhilarating, scary, stressful, euphoric, and kind of peaceful, all at once. My husband and I stretched this phase out about as much as you can before becoming serious (about 6 months), and it still went by way too fast. Many of the best memories of my life come from that time. Now don’t get me wrong, I knew early that he was the one. But I just didn’t want to be cheated out of a youthful love story. In the end, I’m glad I wasn’t. (And even after becoming serious, we took a long time to move in together and get engaged. A newly serious relationship is also a unique phase worth enjoying.)
You will regret it if you give up these experiences. It’s a very special time.