[quote="NFP1Kate, post:3, topic:280499"]
Yes, that is what I am looking for...I don't think it does exist. I have done so much research, and the same HV 14 and Casti Connubi keep popping up but it doesn't address this specifically.
My husband has many sessions where he climaxes (vaginally), but I don't. I am ok with that, occasionally it goes in reverse. The last few days I have been told that is sinful. HOW?
If female orgasm is sinful without full intercourse, then where would we draw the line during foreplay? Kissing is ok...touch is ok.....but then we're cut off? I know Christopher West talks about it, but it seems to me he has taken some liberties.
The million dollar question.
Bottom line is the one and only thing the church dictates is that man has to climax via intercourse; that's it. You will get different interpretations and opinions here, and even different answers from priests. Think the line is drawn, or attempts are made to draw it, when you are having lots of foreplay and other sex without intercourse; people will look upon it as abusing sex. There is no time frame whatsoever for how long a couple can engage in foreplay - none, zero, zip. There is nothing anywhere that says the woman having an orgasm outside of intercourse or during foreplay is forbidden. Frankly, to me, that is one of the great contradictions in church teachings on sex - the woman can and the guy cannot. The question or issue becomess "are you abusing sex and engaging for pleasure only?". Then some people try to put a time frame on it and call it sinful. If you end up with intercourse in the end, then you adhered to church teachings.
If you and your husband can engage in days of foreplay before getting to the final event, good for you! Frankly don't know how the guy can hang on that long!