So tonight I was on the phone with my girlfriend. I had just come home from my daughter’s first reconciliation rehearsal. I was saying to my friend on the phone that maybe due to me being post-partum (my youngest- of four kids- is only 7 weeks old) that I am just being TOO sensitive, too judgemental, maybe too paranoid – BUT…
"There is a lady whose child goes to the kid’s school, whom I have noticed before. She looks like me, meaning she has the Betty Page type bangs, same style, kinda rockabilly/old style punk rock. Tonight she was wearing a smokin’ dress that was actually V-cut down the back to show off her tattoo. 5 inch heels. She’s pretty I admit, but tonight she smiled at me and I didn’t know what to do with it. When we were at the Christmas program when Dash was only 7 DAYS old she really stuck out. Not because of her style but because she kept checking out [DH]. I was literally distracted from my kids because this lady kept turning around in the pew looking at him! OF COURSE I noticed! I don’t believe she’s married as she isn’t wearing a ring, and I have seen her a number of times at events AND MASS alone with her daughter. Even when walking across the street to the school the night of the program she watched my DH, yet smiled at me too. I don’t know – there was just a “vibe” not like she was outwardly flirting, but she keeps checking out my man! He’s a cute guy so I guess I should be flattered…I mean really, he’s handsome, who wouldn’t check him out if they could?
but this is church…I dont know what to think about it. Maybe she’s just trying to cotton to her own kind of people and I am just being sensitive? It’s not like I get to wear hot shoes with a newborn in a sling and a 2 year old at hand. I’m not threatened, I just feel uncomfortable. [DH] wasn’t there tonight so she didnt turn around every 30 seconds like at Christmas. I should be flattered, but I am just – I don’t know? Insecure a little?"
So yeah I get off the phone, meanwhile noticing his buddy from high school is planning a trip here (notified via myspace), and as I am about to tell him he says “Who’s cute and why should you be FLATTERED?” i.e. the above bolded text is ALL THAT HE HEARD!!
He was puffing up for a huge fight! He assumed I was talking about someone other than him!! :eek: Disclaimer: he has always been a bit jealous. It took me a minute because that part of the conversation died 20minutes earlier, then I realized and told him I was referring to him! He didn’t even look relieved, in fact he still acted a bit mad! I even offered to call her back so he could ask her himself, but he’s not that over the top. I also meanwhile asked him if he hadn’t noticed her. I am happy to report he didn’t. He also didnt notice when I desperately(in my mind), yet subtly, flirted with him 15 years ago. :o
So guys, if you stumbled upon your wife saying that. Had moment to pause and think she might be talking about you, or she might be talking about someone else – and let’s face it – my statement could have referred to someone else flirting with me and I should be flattered – would you be grateful and relieved when she explained it was you?
Would you be flattered to over-hear your wife talking that way about you?
Would you be flattered to hear that some other lady may have been looking but your wife didn’t carry on about it?
Would you take a long time to recover and just still be so mad by thinking your wife was referring to somebody else?
Let’s remember our situation of just having a baby has thrown our normal marriage give-and-take off a bit. BOTH of us are sensitive. :blushing:
I guess I just want to hear how other hubbies would handle the first part, (it’s certainly not like I am going to point out the hottie in the fancy shoes checking him out as it’s happening!) and then how they would feel when they realized their wives were talking about THEM. Would you be flattered and relieved and then act accordingly? Like – well a blushing “thanks-- sorry. I love you.” Or would it take you a moment, or a day – :o to cool down?