I'm not sure where to post this so I hope this is the right place. First, I'd like to say that my husband and I love each other and have a great relationship. The problems aren't with that part of our relationship.
The problems we're having are more tied in with the marital act (I'm going to be as modest as possible describing what's going on, I promise!). We just don't connect. We have relations 3-5 times a week, but it's just not satisfying for either of us. We keep having fights about it, and it's always the same fight, just separated by about a month or two. Last night he brought up something new: I have recently asked him to stop looking at pornography because I've come to the realization that it's just not morally right, and he accused me of only having marital relations with him as a "wifely duty", which isn't true at all. He said that it seems like I don't want to have relations with him since I've started to get deeper into the faith, but that's not true either. I'm just having a hard time communicating with him.
He also says he misses how our intimate relationship was before we had our son (he's 20 months old) and that the romance is gone. I'm not sure what I can do to change things, and I want to. I miss how it was too!
Another big problem is that we have been praying for another child for a year now with no luck. I asked him to get tested (on my doctor's recommendation) and he said he doesn't think there's anything wrong with our physical bodies, but I'm just not in the right "mental place" to conceive. Needless to say, that was very hurtful.
I just don't know what to do. We are very much in love and have, otherwise, a great marriage. We just seem to be on different planes of existence when it comes to intimacy.
Oh, in case this info will help you guys help me, I'm a revert to the faith and I've been coming more and more into the faith over the past 7 years and he's a cradle Catholic.