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I don't agree with this.
Background: I've been married for 32 years to the same wonderful guy. We were virgins when we were married, and we've never been with anyone else. We are still enjoying an active sex life.
First question: Only a small percentage of women are able to climax during intercourse. Most women require manual or some other stimulation to be able to climax. So I believe that a "goal" of climaxing together is unrealistic and will lead to frustration if couples pursue it.
My husband and I find that it is much more pleasurable to climax at different times during the act of marriage so that we are able to concentrate on fully enjoying not only our own pleasure during climax, but the pleasure that our beloved experiences during their climax.
Second question: I see nothing wrong with touching sensually, assuming that the couple is alone and in a place where they have privacy. A lot of couples think that foreplay is something that they need to do for about 20 minutes before actually having intercourse. But foreplay can start hours or even days before making love. My husband and I "tease" each other throughout the day and all week along!
Yes, if this leads someone to commit sin, then it will have to be avoided. But for my husband and me, it's a delightful way to prepare all day for the act of marriage.
I don't take issue with anything you have said. It is very much the same for my wife and I. I was referencing PJ2's Theology of the Body. He said it should be a goal, not a hardfast rule.
As to the second point, I also agree with you within your circumstance. However, not all couples are capable of drawing the line where you do. Hence, my advice to determine what is affirmation and what is sensual. That is going to be different for each couple.