Yesterday at the Shrine bookstore I perused a book called “How to find a good wife,” or something similar. I saw a graph in there that showed how extended family discord drives down marital happiness. That is, if your spouse’s family doesn’t like you, it’s going to make the marriage harder. I know, this is probably a no-brainer, but I think it was getting at the happiness or satisfaction between the couple, not between the couple and one spouse’s family.
This is interesting to me for reasons I’ve gone into on this board before. Not only do my girlfriend’s parents hate me, I’m pretty sure my mom despises my girlfriend. I think my girlfriend’s parents are lunatics, and for that matter, my mom is pretty well cracked in the head, too. My girlfriend loves her parents, but doesn’t respect her father at all. She also isn’t too keen on my mom, who she thinks has too much in common with her dad. My Dad is, as always, a present non-entity on the issue.
That said, I want to hear from married people with bad relationships with their families. Specifically, has that hurt your marriages?