Well after everything thats happened this year me and h2b have decided to officially annouce our engagement to the families (his and mine) all our friends know and have done for some time but telling the parents is a whole other issue!
His mother hates me with a capital H I dont know why probably because I ‘stole her little boy’ - we have been together 5 years since we were 16. And in this time he has grown up a lot and he really needed to he has a degree a great job and his own house (thanks largely to me - he had no confidence in himself when I met him he was very insecure and no drive! Now he can stand up in a room and not feel embarrassed I am soo proud of him!) and his mother hates me for it she considers me to be ‘up myself’ (her words) and she refers to me as ‘that girl’ or ‘madam princess’ never my name, on the odd occasion I have had to call her house she hears my voice and hangs up. I have never been anything but polite which she saw as me ‘putting on an act’, and basically we havent spoken or seen each other in three years since she called me a ‘w**re’ dont ask me why. Anyhow thats the background to his family.
I dont think it would be right given this history for me to be with him when he tells her I cant see it helping matters as she once told him that he woudl ‘stay with me over her dead body’ and that it would kill his grandmother (who actually quite likes me? go figure). I think that this is something he needs to do. When we start to plan the wedding I dont want to ban them from coming but I dont want them involved and I also dont think they should be sat with my parents who obviously dont like the way they have treated me over the past 5 years. So its v v complicated.
My parents I think should be okay my mum is gunna be a little bit shocked because she considers me to be to young (im 21!) and she thinks I should have ‘experimented’ a bit more with other boys - as far as I am concerned though he is the one and thats all i need to know or experience,
We both have good solid graduate careers and savings behind us so neither of us are financially dependant but I dont want drama I have had enough?
Any advice? (Sorry for the long post!)