I had a very good friend ask his girlfriend’s dad is he would let him marry her daughter. My friend is strong in his faith as is his girlfriend, but her parents don’t practice any faith. So, dad said no, and apparently explained that my friend would only encourage the Catholicism in his daughter and he didn’t want that.
So, when my friend told me this I asked, “what are you going to do?”
He tells me, “Oh, I asked her to marry me, she said yes!”
(by the way this was a while ago, they are already married)
My question is this: **Is it okay to ask someone for permission to do something if you don’t plan on listening if they say no? ** It seems that you’re kinda trying to stroke their ego and praying it doesn’t blow up in your face.
I pondered this and decided, this father shows just why it can’t be the fathers decision. It’s gotta be up to the individuals involved.
So, my conclusion was this: don’t ask for permission, instead ask for their blessing.
Would this seem correct? Other opinions?
(a similar question: when proposing, should we ask a girl to marry us or to be engaged to us? I don’t think this one matters as much, but the question seems to get a bit ahead of itself - isn’t the engagement to determine the answer to that question.)