[quote="Catholic38, post:1, topic:239575"]
Alright so 10 years ago we were refused marriage in the Catholic Church due to a baby on the way. So we married by a Lutheran minster but it always bother my catholic husband we werent married in the church. After we married I convert to CC and we have rised our children in the CC.
So because this hasz bother him we met with our priest and he was more than happy to bless our marriage. I was told is was a blessing - so I thought it would be short and quick. However, it turned out we had to have witness and it was a complete redo!! Along with the priest referring to our civil marriage now becoming religious marriage I found very upsetting!
So clearly the vows I took in a church with a minister, family, and friends 10 years ago didn't mean anything but the random saturday we have our "redo" now means everything??? And the vows are now more meaningful, along with the vows because it's a CC church??
I feel like I don't any a wedding ann - and frankly standing up there admitted the first wasn't vows "weren't good enough" which I have put my everything into the last 10 years but after that saturday - I seriously could care less. My husband (now legally and spiritually) said it seems I've really check out and I couldn't agrue against it. I figure he
Can put as much effort into our now CC marriage as I did in our Lutheran marriage - that admit our marriage (to him) now feels whole and in grace of God.
I could rant on- but I have noticed a lot of converts on this site so has anyone else struggled with is?? How did you come to peace with it?
I'm sorry you feel like this. We weren't married in the Catholic church either, but had a wonderfully large Protestant wedding. DH was a cradle Catholic, but fell away from the church because of me:( About 3 years later it was on both of our hearts to have our marriage blessed in the Church. I wasn't Catholic yet, but it still was important to me. It was beautiful. DH's entire family came! My in-laws had a reception for us, we were given wedding gifts! I was amazed! We still celebrate our first anniversary. That was the day we became man and wife, nothing is going to change that, but the second day is very special to us as well since that is the day we received a Sacrament in the Catholic church, it wasn't a "redo" but an addition to make our marriage more whole! I didn't become Catholic for another 3 years, but this day was a special stepping stone in the process!