God has blessed me with the man of my dreams! We plan on getting married this upcoming June 2014.
My fiance is technically Byzantine but was raised in the Maronite Rite. I was raised in the Roman rite. When we first got engaged (a month ago) we were rushing to find a church to be married in - we did not realize at the time the proper (and we are still trying to learn) the proper way to have two rites be married…so being completely naive at the time, we booked a church and reception with a Roman rite church.
We both met at and attend a Roman rite church, despite him growing up in the Maronite rite. He is not officially a member of any church, and I am a member of a Roman rite church (but it was booked for the summer)…
My fiance’s uncle is a priest, and we did not realize that he would be unable to perform the Mass in a Roman church…and recently went to visit him, and he was heartbroken. We really want him to be involved, but feel stuck in that we have a Roman rite church and reception hall (and photographer!) already booked in the city we both currently live in (with deposits made) and already began marriage prep in our city with the ROMAN rite priest.
**Now for the question: **Would it be possible to have a Roman rite Mass (performed by my Roman rite priest) and a Maronite marriage ceremony (performed by my fiance’s uncle priest) within the same church, the same day, same time? We heard (though with no specifics) that the Maronite priest could potentially receive permission to perform a Maronite marriage ceremony IN the Roman church that is OUTSIDE of his diocese, and that our Roman rite priest WITHIN the diocese could perform the Mass. Is this truly possible? Or is it too good to be true? Does anyone know the specifics of how to receive these permissions?
I think this would really be beautiful; symbolic of my Western spirituality and his Eastern spirituality coming together as CATHOLIC (universal), two lungs breathing, two becoming one.
We both thought that since we were both Catholic and that both East and West were unified, this would be a simpler process! P