Hi all. I have a question that is weighing very heavily on me. My wife and I (first marriage for both of us) were married in a Pentacostal church. Neither of us were Catholic. We’ve been married for 17 years. Last year I started RCIA, and am close to finishing RCIA this Easter. It has been my understanding that since neither of us were Catholic when we got married, our marriage is valid in the eyes of the Church. I also asked the Priest for clarification on that about a month ago and was told that yes, our marriage was valid. I asked him if the fact that my wife is not going through RCIA with me would be a hindrance on my ability to partake of the Eucharist at the Easter vigil. He told me that the marriage was in fact valid, and that I would be able to take Communion.
Tonight my RCIA director handed me a little note to see him after class, which I did. He looked at the paper I had filled out when first starting RCIA, and asked whether or not my wife had ever been baptized. I told him that I wasn’t sure, that if she was it would have most likely been in a Pentecostal church, and that we had no baptismal certificate to show. He told me that he would have to have a talk with Father about it, because it was “out of his jurisdiction”. Now I’m very concerned. I’ve been looking forward to Easter so much, and the thought that my marriage may keep me from fully coming into the church is very disheartening to me.
Can anyone please shed some light on this for me?