My wife and I have been going through the convalidation process for a few months now and it has been the most unpleasant process I think I have ever gone thorugh. We are to get married in January and my wife and I just can’t wait for it to be over we are so tried of all the obsticles we have to deal with. Let me give you some background, my family moves quite a bit and where we live now we don’t have any family or friends really, although my mother-in-law is moving into town today. This information will come into perspective later.
We were required to take three seperate classes which I do agree with they cover, basic marriage issues, more personal bounding, and natural family planing. To go to these classes we had to have family from out of state come to babysit my 6 year old and our new born, but again I do understand the purpose of these classes. That was the first obsticle. Now we were told we need to get signed affidavits from two people from each of our families which had to be done at a catholic church and then sent from that church back to our church. These mainly had basic questions on them nothing special. So to recap we have done three weekends of classes and had people fly from out of state so that we could take them because children are not allowed and there is no child care and we had to send four relatives in for questioning at there locate parishes. The following is what finally made me question this whole process, yesterday we went in for a final meeting and expressed that we want the most basic service possible because no family will be able to make it. So to be sure because of all these random hoops we have had to jump through my wife asked if it mattered if the witnesses were both from her side because her mother and grandmother just moved, the women said she will have to ask the priest, which is very common with here everytime we have a question we are force to wait for her to find the answer and call us back (which many times did not happen). Now to what sent me over the edge is my wife just called crying and said that she told her that we must have one male and one female witness, again becuase we don’t know anyone she said that maybe the church can find someone. This to me makes no sense, so I did a little research and can’t find a requirement like this stated by the church. At the end of the phone call with my wife holding back tears she said, “I just can’t wait for this to be over”.
Has anyone ever dealt or heard of anything like this, I have kept my cool through all the issues so far but this did it for me I am so over these requirements especially the last one because I see no reson for it or any information to back it up. It seems as if they are trying to keep people from getting marrages convalidated or just getting married in the church.