I started a thread last year before I even thought about converting and posted another question in the same thread and it was closed for some reason. So I guess that means I was supposed to open a new thread.
This is what happened. I was asked to be a Godparent and since I was baptized and practicing as a Baptist I came here looking for answers of what that meant. I learnt so much here and decided to take RCIA just to learn more. I ended up converting and confirmed last Easter.
Even though my husband was born catholic he has shown no interest in getting back into the church. We were married in civil court. I didn’t know the least bit about the marriage sacrament in the Catholic church and our marriage was valid in my religion.
During RCIA I explained everything. There is no way possible to learn everything in a year. I asked if I should have my marriage blessed before I was confirmed and was told that I should finish RCIA and worry about that next. Being told that by the people who were there to teach me was good enough for me. Yeahhhh, but the more I learn the more I know how very wrong that seems now. How was I aloud to take communion if I was still in an invalid marriage? I wish that question came sooner. Now I’m feeling worse than before. I’ve been committing sins since last Easter. So since my husband isn’t practicing he is beyond angry when I say we should live as brother and sister until we have our marriage blessed.
We have a appt with the persist in 2 Monday’s but I want to know what is SUpPOSE to happen. It’s the same church and priest that confirmed me knowing my situation. I feel a little cheated because I should have been told that before. Even in confession before confirmation I told another priest the same thing and was never told to live as brother and sister and continuing living as husband and wife was a sin.
I thought this would bring my husband closer to his religion. I was wrong. Now…I know he will go through the blessing for me but I know his intention right now is not to be in the church. I’m trying without being pushy but the more I talk about church and God the more he says “if there were a God…”.
What is the correct way to go about this? I know every situation is different but like I said the same priest I have an appt with is the one who confirmed me knowing my situation.