ok guys, i need some help and i will make a very long story as short as possible.
im married outside of the Church because I was under 18 at the time even though we tried to get married in the Church, they told us we could not . we tried to get the bishop’s dispensation however two priests from different diocese refused to even ask the bishop.
we have been trying to get our convalidation for a couple months now and have been living as brother and sister. it was about two weeks before our convalidation when i got a job in another city ( which means different diocese). our priest informs us that he cannot perform our ceremony because now we live in a city two hours away from our old Church. our convalidation was going to be three weeks ago.
we were told that the only reason that we were denied marriage was because i was under 18 (even though cannon law states 16) and the reason it is 18 is because of the risk if we got divorced while one party was still under 18 the other would be labeled a sex offender and we were denied convalidation because of a technicality.
so now my point, I want to follow what the Church teaches but I just cannot believe that God wouldn’t honor and bless our union because of the american government’s laws and because of a location technicality and especially the fact that we meet cannon law requirements.
we gave our vows to each other with all of our hearts before God and we want our union to be open to the possibility to life ( we want another child), however we also don’t want to sin.
it feels like we are running in circles with the catch 22’s and this is very spiritually and emotionally exhausting.
any help we would really appreciate