My wife of 18 yrs wants to follow through with divorce proceedings. I am under investigation at work and will most likely be dismissed from my job. There is even a possibility, though unlikely that I will have to go to prison. I have never been in legal trouble before in my life.
We have had other problems in the past. Three years ago I had an extra marital affair with a co-worker. She was also married and when my wife found out it was a big mess. This was the only time I have been unfaithful to my wife.
We went to counseling through Kaiser and we stayed together. Now my wife says she is tired of my dishonesty and she doesn’t want to wait for the next disappointment.
We filed for dissolution of our marriage because I wanted to protect our assets. I signed over the titles to our vehicles and we are refinancing the house in her name. We agreed to do this until a resolution to my situation is finalized. She told me when this is all over she wants to move on.
I am trying to find some resources for marriage counseling through the church. We were married in the church and our children are baptized and have been through catechism. I was a Baptist who converted to Catholicism. I went through adult RCIA 12 years ago.
I have been praying for God’s grace and for him to fill this hole in my heart. I am asking for him to help me to fix the problems I have inside of me. It is hard to be in the same house with my wife and act like polite strangers. I am respecting her wishes but I do not want a divorce. She is seeking counseling for co-dependency.
If anyone has some suggestions as to possible marriage counseling through the church, I would appreciate it. I want to get counseling for myself. The counseling with Kaiser was a great resource and I am trying to convince my wife to let me seek counseling with her there. I believe that I need some spiritual counseling and I want to find it through the church. I am recommitting myself to attending mass regularly, I am going to go to confession tonight. My wife did not want to attend mass last night but I went with the kids. I plan to ask the priest for his direction in this matter. Thank you