Hi all ~ My husband and I are to be stationed in Japan this month. We just found out that he will be leaving right after Easter but I won't be able to go for up to 5 months. We were having a great afternoon, but once the subject got brought up about what I was going to do over the summer (visit family, friends, or stay here...etc.) we got into a HUGE fight.
Every time we get into a fight, words get exchanged that need not be. I am in no way innocent of name-calling, etc. but my husband is even worse. Today, during our argument, he called me a "douche", "wacky", "jerk", and an "***". He also told me to "shut up" at least once or twice.
This INFURIATES me. Being called names just sets me off because to me, this is what men do when they want to control women. I can't stand it. I told him to not call me names and reminded him that I wasn't using any insulting words towards him and his response was "well, if you weren't being an *** then I wouldn't call you one".
I hate posting this one here because my husband is normally such a great guy and a very loving person, but once he is set off, I can't tolerate him.
After he threw his series of insults at me, I did the unthinkable - I threatened to file for divorce. I actually got in my car and left. Then I came back home headed straight for the computer to look up how to file for divorce. He kept telling me "Yeah as if you're really going to do that"....which only made me want to even more.
What am I supposed to do? I don't want to leave my husband because normally we are great together. We don't fight that often, but when we do, I can't stand to be around him.
Now, he's left the house (I'm assuming to go to the gym) and I don't know what to do. In fact, I'm freaking out a little. Please help and please pray for us.