This is purely hypothetical my point of view, as I’m long married and divorced, but I hope that it provides some thoughtful and helpful answers for other people who are contemplating marriage.
I remember, as an Anglican, hear our married priest talk, in a sermon, of how terrified he was before his wedding. He didn’t know whether to go ahead with it. But now he was happily married, and his lesson was that sometimes we have to forget our fears, and go forward in faith. Five years later he was divorced.
In the months before my own wedding, I was thrown about by doubts, I felt that although I wanted to marry my fiancee, I didn’t really love her deeply. But I told myself that being “in love” was different from “loving”, and I was confident that I could “love” her, as a decision. Ten years later she left me, and then divorced me, complaining that I didn’t really love her.
During our own marriage preparation classes the priest who spoke to us said that since the start of the classes one of the couples had decided to break-off their engagement, and he said that was a very good thing, and anyone else feeling unsure should do the same. (Ouch!!!)
I’ve also heard the advice, that if there’s any doubt - don’t get married.
What are other peoples experiences? Are “doubts” really a deal breaker?
Particularly, are there people who had doubts, and have remained happily married, or are there people who had no doubts, and had a miserable marriage?