Oh dear. It may seems silly, and it’s almost embarrassing, but our marriage is dead silent over my broken wedding ring! My husband is VERY angry with me and I don’t know what to do.
On the 4th of July, I lost the diamond out of my wedding ring. It is almost a 1 carat solitaire that he bought at Costco, set in platinum. With a few prayers to St. Anthony, I was able to find my diamond (it had fallen out on my kitchen floor). I was at my mom’s when I realized it was gone, but remember hearing something fall onto the floor when I was wiping the countertops at home that morning. I just thought I had wiped off a little tack nail I had seen on the counter and didn’t pay any mind as I was going to sweep anyways. Well, when I got home, I searched through all of the vaccum dirt (ewww) because I had swept and then I always just suck it up with the vaccuum. It wasn’t there so I got down on the floor and found the diamond up against the toekick of the cabinets. Talk about a super happy girl!
BUT, this would be the third time we would have to repair this ring. So this argument began. I feel that it’s the setting itself that is faulty, and that it’s silly to keep repairing it every year and risk losing the diamond for good one of these times. He feels that it’s because the setting is platinum and that we never should have went with platinum. I talked to Costco and they said they would give us a full refund and we could go from there.
We went to Costco the day after the 4th and looked at what they have, but on the way home was when he stopped speaking to me. That evening he came unglued and said that all I want is a “new ring” and that I looked like so giddy looking at the rings in the jewelery case that day. He said that all I ever think about is myself and that I never cared about the ring that he bought me for our engagement. He is bent at me, and no matter how much I explain myself, he remains angry.
He saw me crying when I told him that I lost it. I told him that when I look at that ring, I remember where we came from. Things are so different now, and it’s a sweet reminder of our beginning. It’s $150 every time we repair it and I don’t want to lose the diamond for good. :eek:
He’s angry because I looked at new rings instead of just going to a jewelery store and asking them to repair it. Yet, he seems to think that platinum is what’s causing the problem which made me think that he wanted me to switch to white gold. When we were at Costco I saw a white gold solitaire and a white gold pave band and I said “These would be fine.” He’s steamed about that because he says that it made him feel like I would just throw away my wedding ring.
What are some other solutions? And how do I cool things down and repair this hurt I’ve caused my husband? I don’t know what to do!