I am engaged to be married to the love of my life, and have never been happier about anything. My fiance was raised in a catholic home, went to catholic highshcool, but is not practicing, does not consider herself a catholic, and does not believe in the eucharist. I have faith, and believe that many of the teachings of Jesus are good, yet I am not a christian and have not been baptized. We have had many discussions about faith, we each know where the other stands, and have had lengthy discussions on how we believe we should raise our children.
The big issue we are having is with one of her parents. The parent is adamantly for a Catholic wedding, and insistent that I go through RCIA. I love her mother and father, was raised to respect both my parents and elders, and would gladly go through with conversion out of respect, but both my Fiance and I know that I would be lying (and the parent knows it also). My Fiance on the other hand insists that I should not go through with the conversion, and insists that we should stand our ground, and refused to be married in the church. Do you all have any advice, on how to approach the situation? I want her parents and grandparents to know that I respect their tradition, and I want them to be an integral part of my family; What should I do?