About a week or so ago, I received the Catholic Answers newsletter and read Karl Keating’s article about how to view finding your spouse. He mentions that he has a problem with the Prince or Princess Charming viewpoint that states “There is one person in the whole wide world that God picked out for you to marry!” I have a problem with this viewpoint too, and I’m glad that I read his article and I’m glad that he mentioned that there are hundreds of different men who I could possibly marry.
But how does that tie in to the idea that God has a plan for us? I hold true to the idea that as long as we are open to God’s grace then He will lead us where He wants us to be, and being constantly open to the Lord is how we know we are following God’s plan.
But how do you articulate these ideas in conjunction to someone who may believe in the Prince or Princess Charming notion? What are some problems with the notion? Is there anywhere in Scripture or the Catechism that explicitly states anything relevant to this topic? Can you select anyone from the pool of multiple marriage choices and still be following God’s plan?
I have a few of my own thoughts on the matter, but I want to know your thoughts.