Sorry in advance about the long post.
My husband and I just celebrated our 1st wedding anniversary. We are both 24 and we don’t have any kids yet, but I’m hoping and praying it’ll happen soon. Right now, I am the stable breadwinner but I can’t stand my job. My husband is a wedding photographer. He’s doing well, but he’s still in the start-up stages of his business.
I’ve resigned from my job and will be here for only about another month. My husband and I decided it will be best as the stress is destroying me and straining our marriage. We’ve discussed the possibility of me working with him to get the business going. It’s becoming too much for him to handle alone. I really want to help him, but I don’t know what it will be like when we are both self employed. Again, he is doing well, but photography, like other businesses, has its slow times and income will not always be consistent.
On the one hand, I hear and read so many glowing stories on Christian and Catholic sites about working from home, being a work-at-home, stay-at-home mom, etc., which is what I want to be sometime soon. I’m really looking forward to being a mom. But I also hear about all the challenges people face with home businesses … tax issues, not being able to separate home life from work life and marriage, spouses getting sick of working together, women “losing their identity” when they start working with their husbands in home businesses, challenges with getting work done when you have kids, etc.
On top of all this, we are living at my parents’ house. We lived on our own for a year, but recently moved in with them because we thought we were going to buy a house and didn’t want to be locked into another year-long lease on an apartment. But now that I am leaving my job, I am afraid it will set us back in moving out. Even more so, I am afraid all this will set us back on starting a family, since my husband says he definitely wants us to have our own place before we have a baby.
I know I’m young and naive, but my vision of how I thought life would be is crumbling. I thought the job I have would be my dream job. I thought my husband would have stable work and that we could start a family soon, and that doesn’t look like it’s going to happen. How do marriage, jobs and family all work together? I just wish and feel like my husband and I should be past all this – especially past the point of living with our parents. Any advice would be appreciated! Sorry again for ranting & thanks for reading!