[quote="prolifewife, post:1, topic:201606"]
So my DH (protestant) and I were married in a Catholic Church by a Catholic priest. The priest said it would be alright for our future children to attend Sunday services with their protestant father in addition to attending mass we me. In otherwords we would all go to both the mass and the service every week. All sacraments and religious eduction would be done in my Catholic faith.
I was so in need of my DH's love and care and I didn't want to loose him that I said yes, after all the priest okayed it and I've seen others do this. It was against my better judgment, but I agreed anyways.
Did I commit a mortal sin in allowing future children to be raised dual faith?
Fast foward 4.5 years, we've been really discussing/debating this again. Being infertile, it hasn't really been an issue. But as we are nearing a point in our lives were we might be able to start taking more steps towards adoption this is all rearing its ugly head.
What should or can I do? We agreed pre-marriage with the advice of a priest upon the dual raising. I no longer wish to do this, but my DH doesn't want to give in on his side either.
Would that be the best solution in all this? Is an annulment necessary? Or should we just not adopt children? Should we be extra cautious and use NFP instead of just relying on our infertility? Are there any other options?
I'm just in :crying: about this! Please help! Thank you.
I do think the priest gave you bad advice. The teaching of the Church is very clear that children of Catholics are to be raised Catholic when the parents are in a mixed marriage. If you really didn't understand that at the time, then you probably aren't in any danger, though I advise seeking the advice of a different priest to make sure! It sounds to me that you had an inkling that it was a bad agreement to make, but love blinded you ;) Also, since you don't have any kids and haven't actually done anything, I don't see how you could be sinning.
If you now decide to have kids, and went along with it, you would be committing sin since you now realize that you have an obligation to raise them up Catholic. You can't treat each religion as equal if you are supposed to be raising kids Catholic. That makes absolutely no sense. Just because you did agree to that pre-marriage doesn't mean you have to go along with it now since you have come to a greater understanding of the truth.
I don't know about annulment/NFP, etc. Being a mom myself, I can say that it would be near impossible for us to go to two services a day. If your husband went into the marriage never intending to allow you to raise your kids Catholic, then you may have grounds for an annulment, but since you are infertile I think that it really isn't a huge issue. However, if there is a possibility that you could become pregnant, then that is another thing.
Seek the advice of a good priest.