[quote="ac_claire, post:25, topic:201606"]
Yes, your husband seems to have taken a stand on your prior agreement, and the two of you are at an impasse now. But things can change; circumstances can change people's hearts. You are still several years away from this even being a possible issue for your family, and who knows what will happen in the meantime? Or how God may work on your husband's heart? And it's not even as if he's said that the kids can't be raised Catholic or anything like that. And...you want to have children so much, so I'd really hate to see you take any kind of drastic measures right now based on a possible conflict that might come up in the future. Not to mention the fact that you're obviously very emotional right now (as you've pointed out) and being on an emotional roller coaster is NOT the time to be making drastic decisions. (IMO starting to use NFP to avoid because of this possible future issue would be drastic and imprudent.)
[quote="ac_claire, post:27, topic:201606"]
But it might not be an issue in the future. Right now prolifewife's husband is still protestant but she said that he goes to Mass with her most of the time, and doesn't even attend his own church faithfully. A lot of the time people are real adament about things when they are dealing in far-off, hypothetical situations. It looks to me just as likely that he could soften his position later on, if/when they actually do ever have children.
And again, as I just said above (sorry for being redundant), her husband has agreed that the children will be raised Catholic. The only issue is he's saying (now) that he still wants them to also attend a protestant church. I could be wrong of course, but I don't think that this is as dire a situation as some (including the OP) are making it out to be.
OP: stop thinking about using NFP to avoid and stop thinking about all these different scenarios and situations that might come up that would cause you to leave your husband. You're just making youself more anxious and sad over nothing.
[quote="ac_claire, post:30, topic:201606"]
Sorry prolifewife, for the "over nothing" comment. I post in haste sometimes, before thinking it through. I'm gonna also go ahead and blame my hormones here as well, while I still can. ;) Obviously your sadness and anxiety is not over "nothing"....Again, I could be wrong, but I just suspect that the situation may not be as dire as you and some other posters are thinking, that's all.
Thank you for your hopeful outlook. This is very kind of you! :hug3: I keep trying to hope for the best too, but after this I think he's more turned off Catholicism than ever. :(
We have only two options as far as I see. 1. Get an annulment. 2. Not adopt or have biological children. I think number 2 is a better option than number 1. :shrug:
You are very sweet to us and I thank you so much for your kind, gentle, hopeful input on this thread. :hug3: