Hello everyone. I am new to this forum and have a question regarding what to make of this matter I’m struggling to deal with. Firstly I’m a newlywed. My husband is a convert to the Catholic Church. Before he met me, he lived a pretty openly sinful life. Then, he was blessed with the gace to “become a new man” in Christ Jesus. Before we began dating, he was pretty open with me about his past. Recently though I’ve been plagued with the thought that he was intimate for many years with another woman (cohabitating and all that). That lifestyle was all way before we met and before he became a Christian. He never lied to me about any of that but I never really questioned it because I didn’t want to “bring up the past,” which he renounced. I have a sinful past too but just not the same as his (he’s been the only man for me)and I’m finding it hard to not think of the fact that he touched another woman like that. I am jealous of her. NOt because he is still attracted to her or even in contact with her but just b/c she was his first love. I’m trying to overcome these feelings but I don’t know how to deal with it exactly. I mean guess what’s bothering me the most is the fact that he actually asked her to marry him but he never told me about it. I found out from one of his friends. He always told me before that they were just young pagans living a pagan lifestyle but it wasn’t really all that serious and she means nothing to him compared to what he now has with me. His friend actually told me that they were planning to get hitched only the year before we met. I mean I knew when we began dating that he recently (the year before) broke up with his longtime g/f but I never knew that the reason they broke up was ultimately because she refused to marry him. I am wondering now if I’m like the rebound lady. Yet all in all he hasn’t given me any reason to be jealous. He doesn’t compare me to her. He doesn’t contact her. And he’s such an understanding adn good husband. When I talk with my other married g/fs, they tell me I am so blessed with such a great husband. He really is a rare find. That’s why it bothers me even more that I’m feeling this resentment toward his ex-g/f. I don’t even know her and he’s given me no reason to worry about any of this. It’s just my jealousy. That’s what I need help on. How do I overcome this jealousy? How do I rid my heart and mind of these thoughts???
Can anyone give me some advice? I have been praying about it but these thoughts just continuously begin to pop into my head.