I am Catholic. My ex husband was no religion at all, not even baptised.
The marriage was not in the church and was never blessed, nor was there a dispensation.
I had intended to marry in the Church properly. But although the appointments had been made, he refused at the last minute to go through the Church required meetings with a priest. I found out later, after the wedding that he intended to never have children. Although in the end after many tawdry scenes we did. I stayed away from the Church for a long time, Believing I was not welcome because of the nature of my marriage, and he refused to allow the children to have anything with the church. Later on i put my foot down (very late i know) and took them anyway. They are now grown.
We are now divorced and both of us are remarried. I to a wonderful man who is also not baptised and has no interest in it. But he is supportive of my faith. I never got an annulment of my first marriage. Second marriage is not blessed, although I think he would says yes if I wanted to. Not his first marriage.
I now want my Church back, and wish to serve Her in any way I can. I wish to join a lay community and I need to be clear sacramentally to do so. I think I need to get this marriage blessed, but doI need an annulment?
Scariest question of all: does he?( my present husband). I'm not sure he would agree to that since it means nothing to him and it would be a a lot of hassle.
Thanks in advance.