Marriage to a non-Catholic


#1

I’m not sure if this is the right place to ask this or not but here goes.
I converted to Catholisism in 2001 and fell in love with a non-catholic at about the same time. We did not get married in the church and I have not attended Mass very often since our marriage. She already had a son but was never married. I adopted him and we had a daughter together since then. I want to get back into the Church but I’m embarressed by my ignorance of what I need to do as far as my new family. I want my Children to grow up Catholic, What should I do? I just want to get some forsight before I go to speak to my preist.

Thanks :confused:


#2

Wow, where to start. Obviously, you need to go to Confession . And, you will probably need to get your marriage convalidated. Your priest deals with these things all the time. Be Not Afraid. Jump into Mass right away even if you can’t go to Communion.

Welcome back. Your loving Father is so pleased that you are taking this step.


#3

[quote=JMJ Theresa]Wow, where to start. Obviously, you need to go to Confession . And, you will probably need to get your marriage convalidated. Your priest deals with these things all the time. Be Not Afraid. Jump into Mass right away even if you can’t go to Communion.

Welcome back. Your loving Father is so pleased that you are taking this step.
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ditto


#4

Thanks!


#5

1.) Welcome back!
2.) See a priest, for confession as well as the convalidation facts for your area, and don’t be afraid as already stated.
3.) Tell your wife you would like the marriage convaldiated. If you think she is going to balk, then say something like, “Honey, would you do me the honor of marrying me all over again?” It surprises me why people can’t make this a romantic notion for the non-Catholic spouse. Flowers help, guys and gals, as do romantic cards. Make sure they know why you’re doing it, but it is still can be a romantic thing without going into debt.
4.) If she says yes, then set up whatever classes, etc., Father tells you that you need before the convalidation.
5.) Make some plans for a simple ceremony and a small celebration after.
6.) Do it!

IF SHE SAYS NO, you are going to have to do some work, because if you want to receive the Eucharist, you are going to have to refrain from marital relations until the convalidation. You might have to ask the priest to have the marriage sanated, which is like the Church putting its stamp of approval on the marriage by backdating and OKing that one. it takes paperwork for the bishop’s approval.


#6

[quote=OutinChgoburbs]1.)
IF SHE SAYS NO, . You might have to ask the priest to have the marriage sanated, which is like the Church putting its stamp of approval on the marriage by backdating and OKing that one. it takes paperwork for the bishop’s approval.
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Going through this right now–meeting my pastor tomorrow night. hopefullu it will go well and there won’t be any problems (do they ever not grant a sanation? if so, why wouldn’t they?). Looking forward to being whole again, but still nervous about what to expect. :confused:


#7

[quote=JohnnyK]Going through this right now–meeting my pastor tomorrow night. hopefullu it will go well and there won’t be any problems (do they ever not grant a sanation? if so, why wouldn’t they?). Looking forward to being whole again, but still nervous about what to expect. :confused:
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I don’t know. But relax, pray and let God handle the rest. He brought you this far, right?


#8

absolutely! :slight_smile:


#9

I found out that my wife also has never been baptized. Will she need to baptized first before convalidation?


#10

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