All books in the Bible are inspired; it doesn’t matter who say it but at least the Bible is clear about the roles of Christian husbands and Christian wives. That should be sufficient to guide us in marriage life.
Jesus did not say it. You should read the Bible. I am not trying to be rude but a casual read of the Gospels, which are quite short books, would help.
In any case, the guide on Ephesians 5 should be the principle for Christian marriage.
Many husbands or wives do not understand these verses, but the condition for the wives to be submissive to the husband is when that husband loves her like how Jesus loves the Church. That’s means he has to die to the self as Jesus did, consider his wife’s body like his own and cleanse her with his word like how Jesus cleanses us with his word (the Bible). Paul said speak to each other with words of psalms and songs. This should be applied even more for the husband to his wife.
A wife could only love a husband if that husband can love her truly in holiness. Do not expect your wife to be submissive to you if you lord it over her or if you are not a man of God. A wife also cannot be submissive to a husband if the husband brings her to sin.