Here’s something else–and I really don’t mean to antagonize. This for me, as for everyone, revolves around deeply held convictions. So I want to offer my disagreement in the spirit of community.
But here’s something else–my brother-in-law is a firm believer in Paul’s writings about the marriage roles. My sister basically goes along with him in this.
My brother-in-law is also a Presbyterian. Their first child was baptized in the Church. He insisted their second child be baptized as a Presbyterian. I argued with him about it but he had the final word. (I spoke with our priest about it and he said any Christian baptism is valid, and we should be supportive lest we risk a family split and we should pray for a reconciliation).
My sister and the children attend Presbyterian services every Sunday. They used to go to Mass, but her husband insisted that they also attend services at his church. It became too much for her to have two young children at both, so she eventually dropped Mass. It was what her husband wanted.
We live several hours, by car, from them.
When we are visiting them, she and the children do come to Mass with us but that’s the only time they do. Also, my nephew (our Godson) is 11 years old and has yet to receive any Sacraments since Baptism.
So what’s better? That she defy her husband and struggle with the consequences? Or that she follow Ephesians and maintain marital unity? There are realities of life here on Earth that we need to consider, realities that perhaps didn’t exist at the time of Paul.