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Ok, so I got married a couple of months ago. I love my wife and enjoy being with her...
But I an having problems with a past issue. For some reason I am struggling to not look up porn and possibly masturbate. I used to have this problem and then stopped after I found out it was wrong a couple of years ago. But then I messed up a couple of tines before we got married (I guess it was hard having to wait, so I gave into that instead). I told her I would stop and that I'd have her then.
Yet I messed up again last nite. I looked up women and almost went to far nasturbating (I know I still Have to go to confession). I had gave in and looked up that stuff & masturbated a few weeks ago a couple of times as well. Yet I keep giving in and hurting her and myself. It starts out as a browse of something maybe with a possiblity of seeing something (college humor or google videos with words in them that could find something). Then a couple of hours later Im looking at women posing and stuff in naughty videos.
Anyone have any suggestions to help me. I feel bad every time, yet I can't seem to stop myself...
Such can be a problem for many ...as one can judge from shows on the subject on Catholic Answers radio....I saw there was one even just this month..so perhaps go listen to it....catholic.com/radio/calendar.php
Anyhow....yes make a perfect act of contrition and then get to confession as soon as possible...and continue to seek to follow Christ ...renewing your commitment and firm purpose of amendment (by the way I would not suggest talking per se with your wife...i would imagine such could hurt her...)...and with the grace of absolution ...follow Christ!
And perhaps get a regular confessor (who is of course faithful to the Church) and seek his counsel etc.
I would even suggest a nice short renewal of your rejecting the devil and all his works and renewing your baptismal promises each day.
Even a short "Lord Jesus Christ I renew my baptismal promises and will follow you as your disciple"
Also make sure you avoid near occasions for the sin...have a reasonable custody of the eyes and take good measures to block things out etc ....
But know this: Jesus Christ is the Good Shepherd and he loves you and will forgive you...and take you on his shoulders....