I’ve been married over 30 years, and I have been having some very real and difficult moral issues. My husband has a multitude of health problems from diabetes to cardiomyopathy. He is unable to achieve an erection at all. This does not bother me in the least. I am well over child bearing age, and, in fact, I have no desire for the sex that he can’t give me. But, he is still wanting to try because it apparently is important to him. I cannot bring him to an erection, and he is always left frustrated If he does not have an orgasm.
I had no idea, until recently, that mutual masterbation was mortally sinful for married couples who can no longer have children. I know that he will not be happy about this and I don’t know how to break it to him. He is also Catholic, but was not raised in a Catholic home, simply baptized, and received Holy Communion as a child. He attends mass on Sunday, I believe to appease me, but the is borderline at best.
Any thoughts on how to let him know that we can’t do what we would do before?