Married men - If married proests were allowed, would you seek ordination?


Title pretty much says it…
If the Church were to relax or remove this discipline, would you - as a married man consider the priesthood?



…looking forward to the answers…


Nope. I do not have that calling.




I don’t think so. Remember, even married priests are bound by Canon Law to observe perpetual continence:




I would seriously consider it. It’s tough to seriously consider it now since it’s not going to happen anytime soon. :stuck_out_tongue:


This technically applies to deacons, too, but I don’t know that any bishops have been requiring that of their married deacons or married priests – at least here in the U.S.


I was already considering the priesthood. And if I were to become a priest I would probably stay single even if priests were allowed to be married. There are so many reasons to stay single. Pauls argument in the bible is a sound enough case for celibacy, but there are plenty of other reasons more applicable to todays environment. Whatever the requirements are, if you are not willing to be a priest based on the discipline at the time, then you dont really have a calling. A calling assumes you are willing to make whatever sacrifice is necessary to be a priest, including celibacy. A calling is not something you feel like doing if only God would change HIS plans.


No because I would not be able to be the kind of priest I would want to be and still be able to dedicate time to my family.

I would want to pray the Hours open to the Faithful, have Confession daily, have “office hours” in the evening, have dinner with parishioners, attend CYO/CYM events, etc.

I would want a very active parish and I would want to be everywhere and in touch with the people as much as possible.

I’m a bit of a workaholic in my secular job, if I was a priest, I would be working every moment I was a awake.

Besides, married men can already become Ordained as Deacons to serve. If I wanted to be both ordained and married, I would become a Deacon.


Your citation is to Ed Peters , whom I respect, commenting on deacons, . However, on this issue he is wrong.

“There’s been much debate, here and elsewhere, about the canon law requiring all clergy, including married deacons in the Latin rite, to observe continence and abstain from sex.
In January, the USCCB issued the following letter to bishops, from Bishop Robert Carlson (Chairman of the Committee on Clergy, Consecrated Life and Vocations) and Archbishop Timothy Broglio (Chairman of the Committee on Canonical Affairs and Church Governance). Someone just emailed it to me, and I thought it worth posting in its entirety (emphasis my own):
In recent months, published opinions have appeared in scholarly journals and on Internet blogs that have raised questions about the observance of diaconal continence by married permanent deacons in the Latin Catholic Church. The opinions have suggested that the clerical obligation to observe “perfect and perpetual continence for the sake of the kingdom of heaven” (c. 277, §1 CIC) remains binding upon married permanent deacons, despite the dispensation provided to them in canon law from the obligation to observe celibacy (c. 1042, 1° CIC).
In response to repeated requests for an authoritative clarification on this matter, the Committee on Clergy, Consecrated Life and Vocations and the Committee on Canonical Affairs and Church Governance requested the assistance of the USCCB President in seeking a clarification from the Pontifical Council for Legislative Texts.
Earlier this week, we were informed that Cardinal-designate Francesco Coccopalmerio, President of the Pontifical Council for Legislative Texts, with Bishop Juan Ignacio Arrieta, Secretary, has forwarded to Cardinal-designate Timothy M. Dolan the Pontifical Council’s observations on the matter (Prot. N. 13095/2011). The observations, which were formulated in consultation with the Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith, clarify that married permanent deacons are not bound to observe perfect and perpetual continence, as long as their marriage lasts.
Should you have any questions about this response, please contact Reverend W. Shawn McKnight, Executive Director of the Secretariat of Clergy, Consecrated Life, and Vocations.”

  1. Married priests would require a papal approval.
  2. The pope is not bound by canon law.
  3. We have married Catholic priests now as the result of Anglican and some Lutheran ministers being admitted to Catholic Holy Orders.
  4. The married priests are possible as the result of papal approval.
  5. The married priests we now have are not bound by perpetual continence because the pope says so.
    So . . . I think it fair to conclude that if the pope decides to allow married priests, they will not be bound by the requirement of perpetual continence (i.e. no sex with their wives).

In response to the question - No, I am not called to the priesthood.


IF I had a calling for the priesthood, this would clinch it for me.


Nope. low pay and I’m really not made for the job.


Yeah, but talk about job security!!!




No. I wouldn’t want to be in a situation where I’d have to choose between my duty to my wife and my duty to my parish as a priest.


And the benefits are out of this world. :smiley:


I understand the arguments about it being tough for a man to divide his attention between his family and his parish. But I do think we can exaggerate this point sometimes. I don’t think this would be the primary consideration in ascertaining whether or not to change this discipline.

Not to say that there is no merit to such concerns. There is. And it would need to be thought through. But there are some married priests already. Obviously, they find a way to make it work. There are also plenty of lay people working in and for the Church and they still balance family life alongside that service, too.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not advocating they change the discipline. Personally, I would argue that it not be changed. But I’ve become less convinced that this is a compelling argument against it.


Guess you can’t multi-task


I certainly do not believe this is true regarding those married Episcopal priests who have converted and been ordained as Catholic priests.


Multitasking is a myth. The human brain can only process one activity at a time. Since I am husband I focus on being the best husband as possible. If I am a priest I would focus on being the best priest as possible. Trying to balance the two would be a disservice to both.

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