If I followed this advice, I wouldn’t have a good friend. I am 33 and married, he is 20 and single. We talk all the time while working and enjoy each other’s company. We laugh and joke, along with other co-workers. I gave him 10 Stupid Things Men Do to Mess Up Their Lives because I care about his future. I would LOVE to someday be friends with him AND his wife.
This kid is cute as all get out, and yes, I noticed. But I have morals, and so does he, as a very serious-minded evangelical Christian. (Never mind that I am 33 and have a body that gave birth to 5 babies… no 20 year old wants a piece of this! :rotfl: ) I can be friends with him and not have anything bad happen. There is emotional attachment, but it’s more like a motherly feeling. I like him and care about him and want the best for him.
I understand the idea of avoiding temptation. But I don’t think just walling ourselves off from entire classes of people is reasonable. If we remember who we are, and the commitments we have made, at all times, then I think we can be friends with anyone.
I would have no problem introducing this young man to my DH. The only reason they haven’t met is just because my DH is usually asleep when I work, and of course, the guy in question does have a life. My DH has in fact teased me about my young boyfriend at work.