Good morning to all
Background - I married my bride 25 years ago we have 3 beautiful children typical leave it to beaver home ---- I am blessed - we are blessed
However - I know we have al read these comments - but ----- when we got married I was 6’3" 225 very fit - she was 5’4" 110 very fit - - we were both very active - ate well - did stuff together - NOW - NOTHING - I am still the same guy - active - coaching soccer - the gym - hiking - eatwell, she just stopped trying - she is now 5’4" 210
Am I wrong to consider what she did as breaking the vows of honoring and cherishing - I view what she had done as dishonoring me - and not cherishing me - she knew when we got married how important all that was to me - and she never gave me an indication that she felt different - I have tried supporting her - asking her to go for walk - hiking - I cook for her but she is all to content to sit on the couch play on her home and eat ice cream…
When is it ok to say – I’m leaving - I have 30 years of vibrant life ahead and the partner I expected to have is no longer th partner I have - not even a reasonable facsimile - we get old yes - BUT THIS — she is literally 100 pounds heavier than when I married her and she can’t even walk up stairs much less walk the beach with me.
I love her - she is my best friend - but I also need a companion that will do stuff with me - what do I do