I’m a sophomore in college who has been in a relationship with an amazing guy for a year and a half. He’s my best friend, and knows me better than anyone. We’ve talked about everything, from future plans (as far as education, careers and stay at home motherhood), to finances, to philosophy, to NFP. After a lot of prayer and discernment, we know that we are supposed to spend the rest of our lives together.
We’ve been discussing marriage for over a year, but from the get-go it had always been understood/a matter-of-fact that we’d wait until after we graduated. This summer, however, we discussed marriage more seriously, and really thought about why we had always assumed we’d wait those four years. We couldn’t come up with truly valid reasons to wait (after testing out the various objections re: maturity/age, money, educational/career plans, etc, which I can go into in later posts if anyone’s wondering). Now we’re thinking a more suitable timeline would be marriage between our junior and senior years.
We truly feel called by God to this awesome vocation, and are well aware of the challenges we will face, but at the same time we don’t see any real reason to delay the graces of this sacrament and beginning our life together.
While there is a sort of unspoken understanding between our parents and us, there has of yet been no formal engagement (although that’s more than likely coming soon… I’ve been told to stop thinking about it ;)). I’m honestly not sure what their reaction will be to our being so young, but we think that once we explain our seriousness they’ll understand.
We’re in the process of beginning a relationship with a priest who my boyfriend has already spoken with about our relationship (he was very excited for us :D) to explore this more seriously.
So… what are some of your experiences with young marriage, especially during college? Challenges? Warnings? Other advice? We’d appreciate anything!