my name is ann, 20, and a college student from the philiipines.
a month ago, i broke up with my boyfriend of one year because i found out that he has a relationship with another for two years now. my problem could have been simple if this was just the case but my ex-boyfriend is an adopted son of my maternal grandfather’s brother, making him my uncle. both of us were aware of this so we kept our relationship a secret from our family. i had been intimate with him until my grandparents found out. this eventually lead to our break up and me finding out about the other woman.
the adopting father of my ex-boyfriend sent him to california because according to him, our relationship was shameful.
now, my question is: it it really a sin to have had a relationship with him? i know that having pre-marital sex is a sin that’s why im preparing myself for confession but i want to know if marrying him is against the law of the Catholic Church. because if it’s not, im going to pray for him no matter how insane this might sound.
so please tell me so that i can decide on whether to let him go or to keep on praying for us to be together again and eventually to get married to the catholic church.